Single-bullet Theory

I read this very remarkable so called theory in Michael Connelly’s novel, Lost Light.

You can fall in love and make love many times but there is only one bullet with your name etched on the side. And if you are lucky enough to be shot with that bullet then the wound never heals.


“I just knew you had a bad day.” That’s intuitive ability

I just have started my slow adventure with Daniel Kahneman’s “Thinking, Fast and Slow” book. Basically, the book explains how the brain works in which it has two systems; System 1 and System 2.

Quick summary, here it goes.

System 1: Operates voluntarily and quickly. Relates to quick decision, impression, and anything that usually consumes little if no effort.

System 2: Relates to effortful mental activities eg.: complex computation, deep thinking.

I just finished the 15-page introduction and is about 2,3 pages into the first part of the book which makes it not even 2% of the total information comprised in this factual-pack compilation of Kahneman’s works. I just want to pick two most interesting things:

Simplifying heuristic and availability heuristic.

Simplifying heuristic is a situation where we imply resemblance and ignore facts in making decision. One simple example. Someone mentions the word “the traitor of the nation”. And the first thing or the first group of people that come across your mind is the Opposition since these are the things that our mainstream media perpetuate everyday when in fact, government servants who take bribery and mismanage country’s wealth are also considered the nation’s traitors. Your mind has indirectly poisoned to resemble ‘traitor’ to ‘the Opposition’, without actually broadening your scope and include statistical considerations.

Availability heuristic. Let’s say you are a member of Parliament. General election is just around the corner and you have suddenly received an amount of money to be distributed among the needy of your place. You start to categorize these group of people into a few categories by the ease with which come to mind; family gross income, number of kids, et al. Any simple, first-strike categories that you can think of. This is called the reliance on the ease of memory.

The end. Not.

There is also one thing called intuitive abilities. You know, things like when you mom called you out of blue and asked “where are you now? Are you somewhere out of your campus?” at the moment you just arrived at a beach with your boyfriend. Or something like, when your mum knows you had a bad day at the first instance she hears your voice on the phone. Or a lecturer comes to an 8am-lecture preparing a quiz beforehand because he has the feeling that students will be mostly absent since it the first day after a long break. AND it is an early morning class.

Waking Up From Sleep; Feeling Fresh or More Tired?

*This article has been published in and is republished here after the site has been shut down.

There are times when even after having enough sleep hour, you still feel like you are not ready for the day. You hit the snooze button to give your body what you call as ‘extra minutes’. But do these ‘extra minutes’ can really give your body the extra minutes it needs and kick the sleepiness away?

When we doze off, there are five distinct stages that the body cycles through over roughly ninety-minute periods. The first is so light that if you wake up from it, you might not realize that you have been sleeping. The second is a stage where you will know you have been sleeping when you wake up. This second stage is just before our body falls into a deep sleep and our brains are practically unconscious.

Stages three and four are considered deep sleep. Stage four is the deepest form of sleep and is a stage when you want nothing else but to go back to sleep so badly. The final stage is rapid eye movement (REM) sleep in which most dreams occur and the brain is as active as it is when it is awake.

So what happens when our alarm clock rings out loud and interrupt with our sleep cycle?

When the alarm goes off in the morning, the sleep cycle is usually reaching its final 20% of the cycle in which will cause slight fatigue because your sleep cycle is yet to complete to feel fully recharged. But when you hit the snooze button and try to give your body few extra minutes of sleep, the body starts its whole sleep cycle again and it can probably go back into the deep sleep mode. When the alarm goes off again, the body is interrupted at Stage 3; deep sleep stage – and therefore causes us to be feel even more sleepy and tired.

The following video explains a little bit more of this:

So what is the lesson learned? DO NOT hit your snooze button when you are waking up in the morning. Frankly speaking, I did try this and guess what? Yes it does actually make some difference. Waking up at the first instance gives a little more energy as compared to when I give my body some extra time to make love with the bed.

Give it a try!


“One Should Learn to Be Alone”

A legendary Russian filmmaker and writer once was asked what would he tell the youngsters and he said,

I don’t know… I think I’d like to say only that they should learn to be alone and try to spend as much time as possible by themselves. I think one of the faults of young people today is that they try to come together around events that are noisy, almost aggressive at times. This desire to be together in order to not feel alone is an unfortunate symptom, in my opinion. Every person needs to learn from childhood how to be spend time with oneself. That doesn’t mean he should be lonely, but that he shouldn’t grow bored with himself because people who grow bored in their own company seem to me in danger, from a self-esteem point of view.

-brain pickings

Being alone does not necessarily mean you are no one to everyone else. It is one way of valuing yourself; do you hurt someone by your words? Do you actually value people as much as they deserve it? Do you intentionally let an opportunity slips away because you want to stay in your comfort zone?

If you cannot even go out for your lunch alone, what that makes of you?

I spend quite some time being alone. There are a lot of things going in the mind in which some of them can sometimes give my the Collywobbles. But it is good in certain ways. It is more or less like self-reflection.

There is one specific time when men like to be alone though; when doing handjob.

The point is, learn to be alone. I believe that everyone is for himself. I might not live long enough to be qualified to preach you but I have gone through many experiences to believe that. At least I choose to believe something. Do you?